Why It’s Not Okay To Date Your Friend’s Ex
Dating is a fun experience in your life. You get to experience ups and downs and it’s all part of growing up. With today’s technology, it’s easy for you to find people you can date. However, some people date their friend’s ex and personally, I think that it’s just straight up rude and disrespectful. Of all the single people in the world yet you choose your friend’s ex. This move could potentially ruin your friendship and other complications may exist. I have experienced this when I was in high school and I’m here to share to you why I don’t like it.
The friendship you have with your friend will be ruined.
When my friend started dating my ex-boyfriend, I was devastated because she was the one who listens to all of my problems and she gave me advices on how to move on from my ex-boyfriend but after how many months, I saw her hanging out with him. I don’t feel jealous, I just think that what they did was disrespectful to me because my friend knew how much I was hurting back then and my ex-boyfriend knew how much I trust my friend. Because of this, I didn’t talk to my friend and I ignored her because of she did. I guess, our friendship ended because of some guy.
People will spread rumors about your behavior.
So when my friend and ex-boyfriend dated, my classmates started spreading a rumor about how she chose love instead of the friendship she had with me. Normally, I wouldn’t want that to happen to my friend because even though she kind of betrayed me, I still care for her so I told my classmates not to spread such vile rumors like that. But that didn’t really stop them. They kept talking about my friend behind my back, they would tell things that she doesn’t have a shame on what she did and things like that. I admit, it hurts me listening to what my classmates are saying but I really can’t blame them for that.
You can never be happy because you have stepped on some people.
On your way to find your happiness, if you have hurt people along the way, you can never be truly happy. Your conscience will haunt you continuously and that will not let you sleep at night. My friend stopped dating my ex-boyfriend after how many months and she apologized to me about what she did. I was just so glad that she came to me and said she was sorry. Of course, I forgave her because I understand that you can never control your feelings towards someone. Right now, we have this unwritten rule in our friendship where we should never date the ex of our friend.
In every friendship, there will be some unwritten rules so try not to be so insensitive and never cross this line. If you value the relationship you have with your friends, never date their exes to avoid any conflicts because I am certain that when you do this kind of things, your friendship will be over.
