Why You Should Not Shower Your Partner With Gifts

We all know how difficult it is to shop for our partners. They like a lot of things and sometimes, it makes our lives complicated. We don’t really exactly know what it is that they really want because they are not that vocal to their wants. I admit that giving gifts to our partners can be quite complicated sometimes but it actually gives us a satisfaction of making them happy. However, it is actually not good to always give them a gift especially if there is no occasion. I have seen my friends give their partners a lot of gifts and at the end of it, my friends are the ones hurting. It is really strange how they would be hurt since they are the ones giving but here are some reasons why you should not shower your partner with gifts.

They don’t really need those things.

            Sometimes, the things that you are giving to them are not really the things they need. There are actually some people who would prefer your time and attention instead of the materialistic gifts. Gifts are good only when there is a special occasion like your anniversary or the birthday of your partner but if there isn’t any occasion, I think you should give your partner your time and attention. Also, gifts are quite expensive so you would totally save a lot of money if you give them their emotional needs.

They might be suffocated with you.

            I have a friend who has a partner who always gives her gifts and I envy her because her boyfriend was really thoughtful but now that I think about it, I understand why she felt suffocated by it. You see, her boyfriend would always give her gifts but would never spend time with her, she also got suffocated by all the materials her boyfriend was sending to her. This is when I realized that receiving gifts all the time can be quite exhausting. I just read this article about how religion is important in relationships. You can read it here. https://www.tendermeets.com/experts-talk/why-religious-compatibility-is-important-in-relationships.html

They might be spoiled.

            Another bad thing if you always give gifts to your partner is they might become spoiled by it. They would be so arrogant if you don’t give them a gift or they would get angry if you forgot a gift for them. When this happens, your partner will become materialistic and they will always be asking you for something. This actually makes the relationship toxic because there is no love anymore, the relationship is now centered on materialistic things and probably money.

They might expect that you will give them gifts all the time.

            This is related to the third one, but yes if you constantly give gifts to your partner, they will get used to it and they will expect you to give gifts to them all the time. Now, this is really not a bad thing but if you expect that your partner would always give you gifts and if they don’t, you would get disappointed, then that is the problem. When this happens, the relationship would end badly and you wouldn’t want to know how it will end.