Why We Continue To Love What We Can’t Have
Loving someone gives us joy and it makes our hearts flatter. It gives us the thrill that we always want and because of that, many people wanted to be in a relationship. Although being in a relationship may feel good but there will be times where things might get chaotic. Personally, being in a relationship is not always fun and games, you will have moments of conflicts and arguments but never fear for these things are totally normal. I can really say that you are lucky if you have someone who still understands you despite the arguments and conflicts that come in your way because there are some people who wanted to be in a relationship but they can’t have the person they like. I have known many people who love others that they can’t have. But why do we even care if we can’t have them? I will be sharing with you some reasons why we do this.
We enjoy the chase.
When we love a person who doesn’t love us back, it makes us want to chase them. People enjoy the chase which is why they would love someone who doesn’t even care about them. We wanted to feel the thrill of going after someone because we know that they will be worth risking everything. Because of this, many people join in this conquest but fail in any way. I always believe that when you love someone, you should not follow them around to love you back, you have to wait for them to have feelings for you.
We wanted to satisfy our ego.
Loving someone who doesn’t reciprocate our feelings would make them irresistible. We thought that if they don’t give us much attention, they might be busy with something more important than us which would make them even more ideal in our eyes. We always wanted someone who is of high caliber than us which is why we cling to these types of people. We wanted to satisfy our ego and make ourselves worthy of every praise. I just read this article which might interest you. https://www.sawinery.net/wooden-diy-projects-for-uk-couples/
We thought they might be the one.
When we have invested so much time in the person who doesn’t love us back, we thought they might be the one. Our thoughts would be just because they are not spending much time with me, doesn’t mean they don’t care about us. We have this world where we create our fantasy of them being busy with other things that’s why they don’t give us attention. This is why many people are in pain.
We want to prove to others that we deserve to them.
Since we have invested a lot of time with this person who doesn’t even care about us, there is this inner desire that we should have them because we deserve to have them. We have every right to be with them because we have put so much time and effort into persuading them or maybe even flirting with them. We also want other people to know that we can have them and that we deserve to be with them.
