Why Having High Standards Is Not Good

People have standards when it comes to dating. We have expectations that must be met in order for the relationship to flourish. While this may be a good thing to avoid being complacent in the relationship, sometimes it also threatens it if we set our standards too high for the others to meet. Women sometimes set high expectations for men may be because they have seen a lot of movies which depict perfect relationships and perfect men with all the qualities women want. Romance movies sometimes give false hopes and make us think that every relationship is like that which is totally wrong. Because of this, not only women but also men could have ridiculously high standards when they are looking for a partner and here is what will happen if you continue to follow those high standards.

You will end up single.

            When you have really high standards towards people, you tend to intimidate them and they would be scared to be in a relationship with you which results into you being single. You see, having high standards is not really that bad, what makes it bad is when those standards that you have are too much for a person to achieve or any person to achieve because you got it from movies. Watching romance movies will really change the way you see things. I just read this article about how to make your own matchmaking website and if you are interested in making one, here are some tips.

You are very picky with who you date.

            When you have high standards, you tend to get high expectations of people which make you a very picky person. You wanted to have that specific person who has everything in your list but there are times where those people are difficult to find. Maybe that kind of person doesn’t even exist in the first place. This is what happens when you have very high standards, you will always be focused on that list prompting you to be so picky when in truth, we shouldn’t be.

You will end up disappointed.

            When you bring your ridiculously high standards in real life, you may get disappointed because you would see that not all of it are packed into one person. Maybe you are looking for a beautiful, kind and rich woman but sometimes, not a single woman would be like that. There would be times where they are just beautiful but not kind or maybe they are rich but they are not beautiful. You really cannot get all you wanted in life and this is what makes it interesting and challenging.

You won’t have time to reconsider other aspects of that person.

            As I mentioned earlier, not all the things that you are looking for in a person would be present, there are times where they lack one aspect that you are looking for but that doesn’t mean that they are not worth loving at all. Sometimes, the standards that you have won’t be followed and some people would have other aspects than what you are looking but you won’t even consider one of those characteristics because you are so focused on what your standards say.